Everyone has a moment in their life when their world is COMPLETELY shattered by someone or a group of people. This could be a bad break up, a failure at school or work, or even just a plain old series of unfortunate events. At that moment, and for several moments after, you feel as if your life is broken and will be forever changed, in not in a good way.
There are two reactions to this – either you can give in to these feelings of hopelessness OR you can acknowledge how you feel and do what you can to move on.
A little over a year ago, a group of people maliciously conspired to end my relationship with my SO. My approach to healing and moving on after this is to address what happened with this open letter and pray that God gives me the strength to forgive them.
So, here we go:
I wanted to write this letter so that I can begin to seek closure and put an end to the chapter you have in my life.
I have tried to understand what your motivation was for cutting me out of your son’s life and I have been unable, even after all this time, to come to a conclusion that is even remotely rational. All I do know is that I must possess qualities, unknown to myself, that you sincerely take offense to. And this, combined with the malicious intentions of others, led you to your decided course of action.
For anything that I have done to offend you, please know that it was never my intention to do so and I am truly sorry.
I don’t know if I will ever be able to understand your malicious nature or why you were so quick in your execution. I can see now that cutting off my relationship was something you had thought about and what I once saw as a hair-trigger reaction was instead a well-thought-out plan.
My hope is that one day you will be able to recognize the pain you have caused to innocent people because of your selfish actions. I continue to pray for you.
I want you to know that I forgive you and in some respects, I am grateful that you have had such a profound affect on my life. Because only by forgiving you can I forgive myself and only by acknowledging the pain you’ve caused can I begin to heal.
I shall always remember the life lessons that you and your family have taught me.